I couldn’t believe my eyes.
Ja Rule was doing a commercial for a Greek restaurant?
Was it a parody? Was his money low? I didn’t know what to think. Just a few days before, he had posted about doing private parties. His arch-nemesis 50 Cent called him out on social media poking fun at him. The thought being that he had to perform at parties sounded like his career was at a low point. The same Ja Rule that was embarrassed from the Fyre Festival debacle. The same one that hadn’t had a hit in years.
Then it was revealed that Ja Rule was doing the commercial to help out a small business owner. The Greek restaurant was a mom-and-pop store that was being heavily affected by Covid19. It was a staple in the community. Ja knew that if he lent his fame, his “notoriety” he called it – that it would gain attention. And it did. He was self-aware enough to know that it would be seen as a joke. But he knew there was a greater goal – to help this small business. He sacrificed his ego. People were forced to bite their tongues realizing that it was a mistake to make fun of Ja.
The result? It made Ja more likable. He was willing to laugh at himself.
Rappers love to take themselves seriously. We often have hardened looks on our album covers and press photos. I made that mistake early in my career. In my first album, I look serious. At my first photoshoot, I didn’t smile in any of the pictures. It wasn’t a conscious decision, I was just doing what I had thought rappers did. But that wasn’t me. I smile. I smile a lot. So having these serious photos didn’t match who I was. On future photoshoots, I lightened up. I smiled. I laughed. Those pictures turned out much better.
“Never on stage did KRS get booed.”
– KRS-ONE, “Return of the Boom Bap”
I remember hearing the line as a kid and thinking – I will never be booed. Because to me – that would mean that I wasn’t a good artist. But then, like most nearly every artist, I was booed.
I was performing at the legendary Guvernment nightclub in Toronto. I was booked for a freestyle set. I was to come out and rap about women on stage. The host encouraged me to rap about how beautiful they looked. So that’s what I did. But there wasn’t much more to it. Also, it just wasn’t my style and I wasn’t able to carry it for more than a minute.
That’s when I heard the boos. At first, they started slow, but then they picked up.
They wrapped up the segment. No one likes to get booed. But now when I think of that time, I laugh. I don’t block it out. The experience taught me that not every opportunity is good for your career. If they had me freestyle about random topics or people for the audience, I would have done great, but it wasn’t my style to drop pick-up lines as part of freestyles. I had to go through that moment to teach me.
Recently Drake was booed at a performance. He was the surprise guest at a concert. The crowd wasn’t happy. The festival was catered to a different type of music fan. He took it in stride. He laughed at it. He made jokes on stage while being booed. He didn’t take it personally.
Sometimes we need to let time pass to gain perspective and laugh at ourselves, but when we do, it is nearly always a positive sign of growth. It can mean letting go of feelings of embarrassment or even shame. It results in moving on. I’ve seen artists not be able to move on in their career because of what could be thought of as relatively minor setbacks.
Laughing at ourselves helps us see the big picture.
Just like Ja Rule showed, it could be good for your career as well.
